Ok, I apologize for not updating in such a long time. But, my only excuse is that raising two kids is HARD! Between trying to balance attention equally between the kids and trying to maintain somewhat of a clean home, it is crazy in our house.
Several events have come and gone in the last few months, one of which is that I started working regularly again. So, Kai had his very first week in day care this past week. The first day really wasn't so bad. I put him down with the other kids, he started playing with them and I went off to work. But after I picked him up, he would not let me put him down for the rest of the day. He was stuck to me. Then the next day when I went to drop him off, as soon as I stepped into the room, he clung on to my clothes and hair for dear life and started screaming. Then when I picked him up, he again would cling to me and not want me to let him go. This process pretty much happened every day, and I'm sure it doesn't help that this is happening at a stage when his separation anxiety is at its peak. I'm dreading tomorrow, Monday and leaving him at day care again. I'm also worried about him getting any lasting abandonment issues. Have there been any studies done on this? Are there any lasting effects to leaving your child like this? I'm hoping not. To compensate for my leaving him, I've been giving him extra love and attention. He seems to reciprocate it more now. Kai never was a hugger, but this week he has started hugging, looking straight into my eyes, and stroking my cheek. It melts my heart and makes it even harder to leave him.
Hopefully this stage will pass very soon, and we will all get into our new rhythm. I hope.